My own personal belief is this…Walk in front when you need to lead and protect. Walk behind when you need to listen and require guidance. Above all else, walk side by side through it all.
Mother. Wife. Daughter. Sister. Friend. Teacher. Husband. Brother. Son. So many titles. Different hats worn at different times, each one requiring a slightly different skill set and behavior. All demanding a thoughtful approach and sensitive hand more often than not.
I’ve been with my husband for almost 11 years now and I can say definitively that he is a good one. He’s one of the great ones actually. I’d like to think that I’m one of the good ones too (for him…the rest simply don’t matter), and that together our ‘one’ is good. I still get butterflies when he opens the door at night. He, and the kids, are the last thing I think about before falling asleep. We drink beer and eat BBQ and laugh and debate and dance. He is my Saturday night and my Sunday morning. I’m a good wife. Because of him, I’ve become a mommy. And I’m a good one. I play with my kids. We draw and do science experiments. We read and sing. I yell (sometimes), and cook special breakfast and buy little gifts and snuggle and smile and cry. I’m a good mommy.
To be a good one means considering the other ones. Being a good one means understanding that as life progresses, feelings and effort wax and wane, but what matters most is that they all collide back together with the ones who matter most. You know you’re a good one when you’re proud. And happy. And can find the sliver thread, or see the light at the end of the tunnel. A good one appreciates the whole, and knows that if one piece of the puzzle is missing, there is work left to be done. A good one understands the value of the whole, and never does anything to disrupt the shape of the puzzle.
A good one wants to keep the puzzle pieces together.
My own personal belief is this…Walk in front when you need to lead and protect. Walk behind when you to listen and need guidance. Above all else, walk side by side through it all. It really doesn’t matter which title you apply this rule to. Whatever title you are, just be a good one.
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